Relationship MYTH type # 3
-You were feeling older, the clock was ticking, all your friends were married, therefore you had to marry and start a family ASAP-
So, you found a cute and smart man/woman to marry, to conceive a cute and smart baby; you believed that you would have a happy family and that everything was going to be great.
But you woke up yourself to a single parent, divorced, and possibly fighting for child custody and/or support before you knew it.
You were desperate and delusional, dear! You hurried into marriage without fully knowing and understanding the consequences.
Perhaps you thought that there was some good DNA for your baby-to-be to inherit from the person you married. But the odds of making a happy family and staying happy in that marriage were very slim…
Don't get me wrong! Nothing compares to the joy of having a child. But playing both Dad and Mom’s rolls at very least half the time, (provided your ex-spouse is still around part time) is very, very hard, isn’t it?
Add having to pay the bills and you got yourself 3 full-time jobs. You’ve done magic to raise a healthy and happy kid and to keep yourself together.
See, although I am a “Relationship Myth Type” # 1 with a dash of # 2, I know what you are going through. I became a single parent of 2 at age 30, and my ex-husband became an every-other-weekend dad after 11 years of marriage and a very long and painful separation period.
The good news: as long as you have a life to live, you can lead a very happy one as a parent, and also as a couple with someone new and awesome too, as soon as you resolve your relationship stories.
You can live a very romantic, exciting and fulfilling life with the right person. Age doesn’t define love, passion, and contentment. That's another myth! (I started dating again at age 56, about 2 years after my last divorce and I have felt sexier, much more confident and had way more fun than when I was 30).
Tomorrow I’ll send you “Marriage Myth Type” # 4. This one can be controversial. If you are # 4 a BIG eye opener is coming your way!
Just in case you missed them, here are the links to Relationship Myth Type # 1 and Relationship Myth Type# 2
Meanwhile, I hope that you go to sleep tonight feeling a little happier and that tomorrow you feel much happier than today.
Nanybel, UNEDITED!
So, you found a cute and smart man/woman to marry, to conceive a cute and smart baby; you believed that you would have a happy family and that everything was going to be great.
But you woke up yourself to a single parent, divorced, and possibly fighting for child custody and/or support before you knew it.
You were desperate and delusional, dear! You hurried into marriage without fully knowing and understanding the consequences.
Perhaps you thought that there was some good DNA for your baby-to-be to inherit from the person you married. But the odds of making a happy family and staying happy in that marriage were very slim…
Don't get me wrong! Nothing compares to the joy of having a child. But playing both Dad and Mom’s rolls at very least half the time, (provided your ex-spouse is still around part time) is very, very hard, isn’t it?
Add having to pay the bills and you got yourself 3 full-time jobs. You’ve done magic to raise a healthy and happy kid and to keep yourself together.
See, although I am a “Relationship Myth Type” # 1 with a dash of # 2, I know what you are going through. I became a single parent of 2 at age 30, and my ex-husband became an every-other-weekend dad after 11 years of marriage and a very long and painful separation period.
The good news: as long as you have a life to live, you can lead a very happy one as a parent, and also as a couple with someone new and awesome too, as soon as you resolve your relationship stories.
You can live a very romantic, exciting and fulfilling life with the right person. Age doesn’t define love, passion, and contentment. That's another myth! (I started dating again at age 56, about 2 years after my last divorce and I have felt sexier, much more confident and had way more fun than when I was 30).
Tomorrow I’ll send you “Marriage Myth Type” # 4. This one can be controversial. If you are # 4 a BIG eye opener is coming your way!
Just in case you missed them, here are the links to Relationship Myth Type # 1 and Relationship Myth Type# 2
Meanwhile, I hope that you go to sleep tonight feeling a little happier and that tomorrow you feel much happier than today.
Nanybel, UNEDITED!