Relationship MYTH type # 4
-Your family and peers know what's best for you (so they found you the best candidate and got you married)-
I know that this myth is hard to swallow and it's one of the most difficult to debunk because is embedded in the DNA of many societies and it can create a lot of unease, inner debates, controversies.
If you are a “Relationship Myth Type” # 4 you grew with insecurities, and fears of punishment, rejection, criticism, abandonment…you may have gone through bloody hell when you got divorced...
I understand where you’re coming from! You see, while living in another country for over 2 years, I learned how local women had no rights to divorce their husbands and would lose their children, homes, and belongings if they dared to end their marriage, no matter how mistreated, abused, rejected, cheated on, and unhappy they could be.
And I have also met wonderful men along the way who grew up believing that they had no rights to choose and still believe it.
Now that you got divorced you can stand tall on both feet, with your head up knowing the following facts:
1-None of the people who got you into marrying the wrong person lived your unhappy life for you.
2-Nobody experienced sex for you with a spouse you couldn’t stand intimately.
3-Nobody was there but you “when the s^*t hit the fan”.
4-Nobody went through the pain, the disgust, the loneliness, the disappointment, the frustration of not being in love with one another, or not loving (or being loved by) your spouse but you.
5-Nobody suffered for you or became numb for you.
6-Nobody but you should have had a say so to decide your destiny. Nobody!
“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you”~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
Life is short and you deserve to be happy. As soon as you heal, unlearn all those taboos and myths and resolve your relationship stories, you will become whole again and will be able to live happily on your own terms with the partner YOU choose, whenever you choose!.
Hoping that you go to sleep tonight feeling a little happier and that tomorrow you feel much happier than today,
Nanybel, UNEDITED!
I know that this myth is hard to swallow and it's one of the most difficult to debunk because is embedded in the DNA of many societies and it can create a lot of unease, inner debates, controversies.
If you are a “Relationship Myth Type” # 4 you grew with insecurities, and fears of punishment, rejection, criticism, abandonment…you may have gone through bloody hell when you got divorced...
I understand where you’re coming from! You see, while living in another country for over 2 years, I learned how local women had no rights to divorce their husbands and would lose their children, homes, and belongings if they dared to end their marriage, no matter how mistreated, abused, rejected, cheated on, and unhappy they could be.
And I have also met wonderful men along the way who grew up believing that they had no rights to choose and still believe it.
Now that you got divorced you can stand tall on both feet, with your head up knowing the following facts:
1-None of the people who got you into marrying the wrong person lived your unhappy life for you.
2-Nobody experienced sex for you with a spouse you couldn’t stand intimately.
3-Nobody was there but you “when the s^*t hit the fan”.
4-Nobody went through the pain, the disgust, the loneliness, the disappointment, the frustration of not being in love with one another, or not loving (or being loved by) your spouse but you.
5-Nobody suffered for you or became numb for you.
6-Nobody but you should have had a say so to decide your destiny. Nobody!
“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you”~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
Life is short and you deserve to be happy. As soon as you heal, unlearn all those taboos and myths and resolve your relationship stories, you will become whole again and will be able to live happily on your own terms with the partner YOU choose, whenever you choose!.
Hoping that you go to sleep tonight feeling a little happier and that tomorrow you feel much happier than today,
Nanybel, UNEDITED!